Been there, done that with the oil filter. Invest in an oil filter wrench, makes it much easier:
http://www.supercheapauto.com.au/online-store/products/SCA-Oil-Filter-Wrench-Cam-70-76mm.aspx?pid=13035#Recommendations
I've had a couple of my cars not finding reverse... checked fluid and was very low. Topped them up and good as new.
I know it's a stupid question but is she low on fluid?